It doesn’t matter if it’s your sister, brother, father, mother, grandmother or friend they will lie to you, they will hurt you, they will do anything in order to feed their addiction. They “may” be clean but addiction doesn’t just stop at doing drugs. Along the way they have developed certain things that fuels this addiction, whether it be through lying, manipulation, sweet-talking or a “polite addict”. It doesn’t matter.
A situation took place last week and I was basically slapped in the face. I am devastated. Not so much because he lied to me but because something unsafe was brought into my house and could have easily been snatched up by my children and, also, because I feel like I’ve lost my brother.
People kept telling me not to trust him and do not put all your faith in him. I did just that: I trusted him and I put my faith in him. I thought I had my brother back, and even better, new and improved. I thought things were changing. How could I have been so stupid. He hadn’t been through rehab or therapy. I thought he could have stayed clean without them.
The truth of the matter is I lost my brother a long time ago and I am finally realizing it. I love my brother but I hate hate hate his addiction. His addiction has destroyed our relationship and countless others, including our fathers’.
My heart aches.
January 12th, 2010 at 8:52 pm
I understand exactly what you’re saying. I’ve been there and it is really, truly awful. <3
January 13th, 2010 at 7:49 am
Someone once told me that you can’t help those who don’t want to be helped. That is true with a lot of things. You tried to help him. You reached out and showed him you love him and you care. There’s not much else you can do. If he doesn’t want to be helped, no matter how hard you try, you just can’t help him. I think you’re amazing for giving him the chances you did. You should be so proud for what you have done to help him. Maybe your kicking him out will show him you mean business. I bet he knows you love him and care for him. But he’s so beyond knowing what’s going on that he doesn’t realize it right now. One day he’ll wake up and realize it. Hang int here and be strong. You guys will all be in my thoughts and prayers. **big hugs** <3
January 17th, 2010 at 6:41 am
Keep moving forward, knowing that in the future, everything wonderful is possible.
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January 17th, 2010 at 9:38 am
You aren’t stupid at all. You are compassionate and you love your brother, but you had some great insights when you said your brother as you knew him has been gone a long time. If he chooses to get treatment he has a chance, but for now the addiction is his whole life. I am sorry he broke your trust, and I hope you find peace that you have done everything you could to be there for him.
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January 17th, 2010 at 8:33 pm
Sorry mama – that’s an unimaginable hurt too. A bro. Hang in there!
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